'Fit Friday

Today is 'Fit Friday and I really don't have an outfit to showcase because I have already changed out of my clothes that I had worn today. Yeah, I know.
Butttt, I have stumbled across some dope outfits from my Tumblr loves and decided to show you guys them.


 Now Ms. Minaj is not a tumblr follower, just thought I post her outfit. I love it. The face, eh not so much.



I'm not totally sure if this is my follower but nontheless I love the outfit and the SHOES. OMG. I have been trying to get my hands on a pair of Jeffery Campbells for the longest. They say 'good things come to those who wait.' WAITING.


This beauty is amazing. Gosh, I love everything about this photo. Her hair is gorgeous and the outfit is something I could totally see myself wearing.



Last but certainly not least. I'm totally diggin' this photo. I can't quite place why I love it so much, I just enjoy that it looks like this was effortlessly put together and still came out great.

Peace.Love.Leos.

Why He "Can't" Commit.

I have been obsessed with this blog. OMG. I would totally recommend this to every one.
I LOVE LOVE LOVE this blog. The topics are great and offer so much insight into relationships, friendships and so much more.
This topic that I'm obsessing over now is the age old question of why he can't commit. Now I don't believe that this topic is one-sided because as a women to often have commiment problems. However, this particular post was aimed at the male species.
Take a look:

Why He "Can't" Commit

At the request of a lady friend of mine I'm going to attempt to answer another age old question.  The question is "Why do men have a hard time committing and staying committed?" There were so many different ways I wanted to answer this question so I'm going to break it down.  Let's continue

1.You are attracted to the wrong guy! I notice that a lot of these women put their all into the wrong guy.  Women need to look beyond the looks and really dig deep into a man's personality.  If this man really cares about you and loves you, he WILL commit to you with no resistance.  

 2. He's not ready. Sometimes we just aren't ready yet.  I'm not telling you to wait around forever but at the same time just like you want a man to wait until your ready for certain things, you have to respect his wishes.  After all, I'm sure he's put up with the emotional walls and other tests that you've put him through.

3. Sex. You might have either a. given it up too quickly and now there's nothing for him to look forward too or b. not been that good at sex and now he's moving on.  Be careful.

4. Psychological.  In a world where being "committed" seems out of the norm, images are subconsciously thrown at us all day.  Telling both men and women to pursue sex, money, pleasure and other things that aren't important.  Mentalities such as "F*ck Bitches, Get Money" and "Money Over B*tches" devalue the woman's worth and we fall for it.  Women need to stop welcoming that nonsense and men need to stop depreciating our women.  

5. High Expectations.  This kind of ties in with #1 but you need to look at a man's history and actually pay attention to what he says and base him off of that.  Don't try to make this guy into something that he isn't because you will fail.  Take him for what he is.  If you know that he sleeps around, then don't expect him to commit to you.  Not to be disrespectful but what makes you different from any other girl he's messed with?  

Hopefully, this was helpful to any women out there. If you have any comments or other questions you want answered hit the email:

talk.that.shh@gmail.com

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Ced- (The Ingenious Squad)

SN: BONG

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Soooo, what are your thoughts?

Me personally. I often find myself placing high expectations on a possible suitor. I believe it is because of my past relationships and the chance of finally correcting them with a new potential candidate. However, I never realize that my high expectations are detrimental to the relationship even before it starts. I realized its imperative to take my time and not try and create the perfect suitor and to just breathe.

 

Until then I'm breathing and letting my perfect male find me.

The So Called Endangered Species

So I follow this blog over on blogger & they usually blog about male and female relationship tips, topics, etc.
Their tagline is "where the truth revealed...can you handle it?"
Right away that immediately caught my attention. I love gaining insight from the opposite sex, just something about their own personal opinions intrigues me.
This particular post caught my eye because it was directed dowager women who are searching for the "perfect man" and who often believe there are "no good man" left in this world.
Take a look:
The So Called "Endangered Species" pt. 1
I'm totally beefin' with all of you females who have these feelings. I suppose it would be more appropriate to explain my beef in detail with all of you. I'm talking about the females who feel like there aren't any good men. AT ALL. Unfortunately for you all, being the opinionated gentleman that I am, I'm going to turn on the lightbulb for you. Let's begin.

The woman claims she wants a "real" man. However, in order to search for the "real" man, one must know the characteristics of the real man. In my opinion, here are some characteristics that the real man should have, but aren't limited to:

1. Purpose. The real man knows what he wants in life and won't stop until he obtains it. He has goals, dreams, and a plan. You might meet him in the beginning stages of that plan and miss him. Pay close attention.

2. Loyalty. A real man is loyal to his friends, family, and other loved ones. The real man will show his loyalty if he feels you deserve it. He won't step out on you because his morals won't let him, which brings me to the next point.

3. Morally Sound. If a man doesn't have a set of basic morals, the relationship will never work. The little things need to be taken into account. Pay attention to the way he carries himself, the way he talks to his family, his friends, and other people. Look at the way he lives his life.

4. Strength. The real man is strong. I'm not talking about physically strong although that is vitally important. I'm talking about mentally , emotionally, and spiritually. He must be in tune with his inner soul. He needs to be able to hold you up when you are at your weakest point. Not saying that he won't have his own weak moments, but you also have to be a strong woman........

TO BE CONTINUED......
So what do you think?
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Seriously...

Can you stay the fuck up out of my email, text, facebook messages with these party invites and chain texts/letters? Please the Lord doesn't give a damn how many things I forward/reblog/repost, I'm not going to die if I don't pass such and such along, my phone will not ring if I pass such and such along. Spare me people

A Letter To Naturals

Dear Naturals,

Do not enforce natural hair on others.  Don't walk around thinking that your hair is betterthan the people who has their hair permed or whatever.  Do not get the idea that who ever still wears a perm is ashamed or in denial of their natural hair texture. 

The way how we wear our hair is a personaldecision.  You can encourage people who want to go natural, to go natural.  Just don't think that your hair is suddenly better than everyone who rocks a perm. 

If someone thinks that your hair is ugly in its natural state, that's their opinion.  Don't go on a rant about how they're brainwashed to think in a certain way because you're then sounding like a hypocrite because now you're brainwashed into thinking that going natural is the best option in the world and that perms are just eewie.  Just let them think what they think.  Most of them don't have the courage anyways to have their hair naturalOR they just don't prefer it.  It's not like you've never wore a perm either in your life.

Hair is hair.  Good hair is only the conditionof the hair, not the texture.  Some girls who wear a perm has healthier hair than some girls who wear their hair naturally.  Embrace your natural hair.  Just don't enforce it on people. 

If you force your opinion; you becomeannoying, honestly.  This post is not made by a person who wears perm, I've been natural for almost 9 months so I'm just keeping it real. 

Taken From Tumblr

First off let me state that these are not my words however if I were to I'm pretty sure I would have wrote almost the exact same thing.
Enjoy!
10 Things I Despise About My Peers
in no particular order
1. You fake ass gang members. Please…just, stop. It's not anything to be proud of, it isn't cute. Bloods and Crips fo' life right? Smh
2. Mind your gotdamn business. Simple as that. If it don't concern you keeeeeeeeep it moving.
3. Please don't complain about any of your drama that you initiated/created. Too old to be playing 'run tell that' & 'he said she said'
4. Why do you feel it's ok to compete with the next man? You don't know who you are? Can't use your own mind and judgement? Oh ok
5. Nobody cares how many bottles you popped in the club last night.
6. How hard is it to say no to a relationship if you do not plan on being committed? It'll save you the drama, unless thats what you like
7. If you partake in any illegal activity…why must you talk about it on Twitter? You really think the government isn't watching?
8. Why are you still willingly playing the side chick/dude? Why be #1, 2, 3, or 4 when you can be the only one? 'fuck them im the main' =\
9. You are 20+ still fighting? Some of y'all shooting, is it really that serious? Unless your life is in danger, what are you fighting for?
10. Why haven't you all grasped the concept of proper spelling and grammar? Typos are understandable but there are dictionary apps.
FYI. If you have problems communicating/speaking your mind, don't get mad at the next person for not having the ability to mind read.

Tumblr Photo Of The Day

In lieu of Topless Tuesday. I loveeee her blog.
Check it out.
Ashing Kusherr